One person I talked to recently is Betty Barker, who was Joan Crawfords secretary from the 1930s and knew her till she died. There is also a determination in her jaw-line and the intimation of challenge in her gaze. I felt entirely alone.. It was complete and total hypocrisy between the public and the private. Death Year: 1993, Death date: March 17, 1993, Death State: New York, Death City: Nyack, Death Country: United States, Article Title: Helen Hayes Biography, Author: Biography.com Editors, Website Name: The Biography.com website, Url: https://www.biography.com/actors/helen-hayes, Publisher: A&E; Television Networks, Last Updated: August 27, 2019, Original Published Date: April 2, 2014, I was once the typical daughter, then the easily recognizable wife, and then the quintessential mother Perhaps I am the triumph of 'Plain Jane.'. Every time we take one of them down, New York loses some of its magic.. [52] In 1979, she received the Laetare Medal from the University of Notre Dame. They were then required to write an endless round of thank-you cards for the gifts they had not been allowed to keep, and each card would be checked by their mother, returned to them with annotations and corrections until they eventually met her exacting standards. Helen Hayes (1900-1993) - Find a Grave Memorial Though he played sports as a boy, it seemed almost pre-ordained that MacArthur would become an actor. This win made her part of an elusive group of entertainers. She also had a chance to share the stage with her daughter Mary around this time. She laughs sharply. Casey LaLonde, Cathys 36-year-old son, tells me by phone from his home in Philadelphia that his mother still remembers a very loving household.